The Torah does not outlaw it — as it does many other types of sexual relationships — and the child of such a union is not considered a mamzer illegitimate. Nonetheless, marital sex is considered ideal, and premarital sex is traditionally not approved of. Sex Within Versus Outside Marriage The negative attitude toward premarital sex, to a large degree, reflects the overwhelmingly positive attitude toward sex within marriage. When sex is reserved for marriage, it too is considered holy. Most Jewish authorities disapprove of premarital sex because it does not take place within the context of kiddushin.
Editor's Note: This page addresses issues of Jewish law that may not be appropriate for younger readers. In places, it discusses sexual behavior in plain and frank terms. Please exercise appropriate discretion. This article is written from an Orthodox perspective on the topic. In Jewish law , sex is not considered shameful, sinful or obscene. Sex is not a necessary evil for the sole purpose of procreation.
While premarital sex is considered sinful by the rabbinic community, the rabbis also recognize the human desire for sexual interaction. Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman is to be reserved for their union upon marriage when they become one with God. Several centuries ago, rabbis deemed the age of eighteen the proper age for marriage.
In Judaism sex is usually associated with marriage. The Jewish community is strongly based on family values , as the early Israelites lived in tribes made up of extended family units. Orthodox Jews believe that sex should only take place within a marriage and that Jews should only marry other Jews.